BLACKDOCTOR.ORG: 4 Ways to Enjoy the Single Life

It’s winter and wedding season has seemingly come to a halt. Hooray for the single folks, right? No more scrolling through your Instagram timeline full of weddings each weekend and your days of being a perpetual bridesmaid or groomsmen are over…at least until May 2020. The single life has gotten boring and redundant and it seems like you’ll never be a #relationshipgoal. BUT what if I tell you that being single can be one of the best times of your life if you decide to enjoy it?

It sounds cliche but it is very true. Being single and legally unattached to a person can be the most freeing and adventurous time of your life. You just have to intentionally choose to live that way. Making the decision to enjoy your single life isn’t the easiest and for many, it’s a daily choice to change your perspective on what being single means and how to live a life worth more than just waiting for the day where you’ll be one with another person.

Here are 4 ways to enjoy your single life:

1. Learn who you are and what you ultimately want your life to look like

This also sounds like another cliche quote but in actuality, if you don’t know who you are and what you ultimately want your life to look like you’re wasting valuable time. One of the greatest feelings in the world is the feeling you get when you know you are doing what you were put on Earth to do. The feeling of satisfaction and fulfillment that comes with tapping into your life’s work and knowing who you are and the values you stand for cannot be rivaled.

Many people spend years and even decades of their life searching for what it is they are supposed to do. So rather than spend time scrolling through Instagram feeling sad that you’re single, write down your life’s dreams, your goals, what you want to accomplish in your life and the legacy you want to leave.

2. Travel
No matter where you are from, it is important to learn that the world does not revolve around your home town nor the United States for that matter. Traveling opens the doors to your mind in a way that books, tv shows, and magazines cannot.

One of the best and probably easiest times to travel and see different parts of the world is when you’re single. Even if it’s picking a different place to travel each year, make time to see different parts of the country and different parts of the world. Trust me, it’ll shape how you live your life once you return.

3. Nurture healthy relationships
Many single people want to be in healthy romantic relationships but are unaware that in order to have a healthy romantic relationship, you must know how to maintain and nurture healthy relationships with family and friends. If it’s hard for you to be reliable, dependable and vulnerable with those around you when you’re single, it will be even harder to be that way once you’re in a relationship or married. Take the time while you’re single to learn how to be a good friend, son, daughter, cousin, sister or brother.

Check-in on those around you, be supportive, make plans and keep them. Relationships take work and maintaining healthy ones will sure to keep you busy.

4. Serve others

Whether you serve in your local church or the city’s homeless shelter, serving those in need takes the focus off what you don’t have and causes you to be thankful for what you do have. By nature, we are all selfish people and we need to be reminded that the world does not begin and end with our problems.

Seeing the happiness and joy in the eyes of those you serve will bring happiness and joy to your life and your singleness becomes meaningless. Who knows, your future bae might be right there serving alongside you!